We got an email Friday morning (actually Thursday night but didn't check it until Friday) from Margie that said Jim's mom was in the hospital with a Bladder Infection. Some of you also received the email. I feel an obligation to everyone (mainly the family) to report some kind of update. Unfortunately, I am possibly not the right one to be providing updates, but something is possibly better than nothing.
We visited her yesterday and she was very confused. She wasn't sure what day it was or who had been around to see her and just was saying some off the wall things. She said she wasn't in much pain and didn't want to take anything but every once in a while she would wince in pain.
We tried to call in today to inquire about her condition and diagnoses but all the nurses would tell Jim was that she was doing ok and she was awake. Well duh, if she was ok she wouldn't be there!! Because of some privacy act they can't tell Jim anything other than that. I suppose they will talk to Margie but we haven't had any updates from her either.
We went down there tonight to see her and she seemed better. Still she thought she had been visited by Joey (my brother who lives in Idaho) twice today. She also thought I brought in some video while she was alseep. Funny thing is she doesn't have a video player, just a TV, in her room. She told the nurse that the pain was a four on a scale from one to ten but then she told the doctor she hurts like hell.
Some Kidney doctor came and examined her while we were there but he didn't offer any information either. I did talk to a doctor today on the phone, and she told me that mom has a severe Kidney infection and mentioned that she was near kidney failure when she came in and her sodium was really low. I think she said they took her off most of her regular medication she was on because it messes with the kidneys and so she is on different medication. The doctor acted like the kidney thing was ok and being treated but now that she is seeing specialists, oh and had an x-ray, I don't know.
Jim doesn't want to even deal with it, and is acting like he doesn't care (which I know he does) and I can see why, kind of. So I am trying to do anything I can to help her or comfort her and making us go visit, but if we don't know what is wrong how do we know how serious it is or what to do? I talked to the nurse tonight when we were there and after going around and around she finally gave me a form mom can sign so the hospital can give us information but she wouldn't sign it. I don't know what else to do. I am totally flabergasted, she did say she just didn't want to sign it tonight but what does that matter? I am pretty upset right now. I feel like I am a very trutworthy and honest person and I would never try to get someone to sign something that would hurt them or be bad for them.
I don't know why it bothers me, what should I care, Jim doesn't seem to and Margie doesn't care enough to get us involved so what the heck.
I am not trying to put blame on anyone or offend anyone, besides this is MY blog and I can type what I want, I just really want to be able to communicate to everybody since as far as I know there is none, and for Jim's sake know what is happening, but I guess since it is not my place I should "Shut UP".
Anyway, that is my update, of course I will do more when I know more. If any of you know anymore, maybe you can update by emailing Jim or you can make a comment if you want.
5 comments:
I am so sorry to hear that Delores is 'down' and also that (like many laws of the land) the privacy thing has gotten ridiculous when children can't learn how their parents are while in a damned hospital.
HOW STUPID!
As to the rest...all you can do is the best YOU can do to let us know what you know. I'll send a card out to Delores tomorrow.
One thing is certain...I am VERY HAPPY that no matter what happens, or the outcome...she was able to come to visit over Christmas (I got a letter from her saying how much fun she had etc, etc.) and that you and Jim gave her such a good time and trip...by giving of yourselves.
She sounds very confused...and disoriented as if she had a mini stroke or something...but what do I know?
If any feathers are ruffled because YOU CARE...too bad. As you've been taught all your life, try to do the right thing to the extent you can...and let that be enough.
That's my opinion on it.
Hugs...Mom
Thanks mom, I started to second guess myself, as if I was doing something wrong.
Both my Grandma's are in the hospital right now (Mom's mom is in there recovering from pnemonia)
Lindz...
You have come to the right person, Will and I have lots of experience in this department - remember the Christmas Wills mom came to visit and almost died? She went in for almost the same thing! She isn't signing because she doesn't trust you, she is just extremely confused - it is totally nothing personal. I got answers to all questions from the nursing staff because I had pull there do to city council. Hang in there. I am glad she is seeing a specialist as she needs to with her diabetes - hopefully she won't get a secondary infection from being in the hospital - but be prepared that she can go down hill fast. She can bounce back depending on her will and family support. If you need anything just call your big sis. I will send you a picture of Emily and note from all of us.
Love you,
Wendy
Lindsay, please check out my most recent Blog...dedicated to my children.
I want you all to 'avoid' hurt feelings and misunderstandings if I or Papa should go down.
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