Today was a good day. Ben stayed in his swing almost all day, between feedings, and I was able to get A LOT of work done. He would even sit there and look around which he had never done.
The reason... 
I had been giving these to him but only in the evening and after he was already hurting and crying.Today I started giving them to him in the morning and then every few hours throughout the day and it worked miracles. He was the sweetest baby all day.
It is a good thing because Jim and I both are at our wits end. Jim is so overwhelmed with everything we are doing right now that he has been awful to even pass in the hallway. He has been impatient, rude and otherwise intolerable. We both handle stress so differently it is hard for either of us to understand the other.
I don't get stressed. I am very cool and calm and only until I am pushed to my limit do I blow up, then it is big and short. Jim on the other hand, dwells on things, things he has NO control over and it tears him down little by little and until after a few days when I have lost ALL patience and "nut him up" then he realizes he has been an ass and apologizes and is his normal wonderful charming self. (We are almost there)
It doesn't help when both Ean and Ben are so much to handle. It takes both of us at our best to make it through the day. Ben was so terrible yesterday Jim had to take him home because I had clients. He had to have him BY HIMSELF for four hours and Ben pretty much cried the whole time. I am used to it and have the mothers touch but Jim is not. He gets freaked out and stressed which I think makes Ben freaked out and stressed. But, like I said today was a whole new baby.
Tomorrow we go to the doctor and Ben gets circumsized. Maybe we won't be so lucky tomorrow but at least we had today.
BTW- I read today on babycenter about spiritedtoddlers and it describes Ean to a tee. Spirited Toddlers are ones that are more of everything. More rambunctios, more tantrums more more more. It gave ways to deal with them to curb many of the problems I have been having. That made me feel better and I tried it tonight and it seemed to help. I just need to get Jim to read it so he can try to be more patient and use the tips they gave.
2 comments:
Love Ben's high-waisted old man pants look. He looks so sweet, like he is incapable of crying and screaming... but that is how they fool you!
Maybe I should try the preventitave gas drop thing. I don't think they work on Lucas but maybe I give them to him too late. Does one brand work better than the other that you know of?
Good luck Ben with your visit to the Dr!
So you have a dweller too! Ah I'm not alone in the world. Ted is a dweller and I am a volcano. I blow up every once an awhile (More often since having the little guys)
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